Updated: May 30
We often think of emotions as something to be avoided or suppressed, but in reality, they are messengers that can provide us with valuable information. Every emotion has a job to do, and when we learn to listen to them, we can gain insight into our deeper unconscious mind. In this article, we will explore the role of emotions and how to use them to our advantage.
Anger: A Natural Response to a Boundary Violation
Anger is a natural response to a boundary violation. It is a sign that something matters to us and that we need to take action to protect ourselves. There are different variations of anger, such as hurt, frustration, and irritation, but the core emotion remains the same.
Sadness: Telling Us What Matters
Sadness comes in response to loss - the loss of something that matters to us. If you are sad, the first question is, what has been lost?
Fear: Keeping Us Safe
Fear is another important emotion that serves to keep us safe. It signals that something is wrong and that we need to take action to protect ourselves.
Ignoring Our Emotions
Unfortunately, in our society, we are often taught to ignore our emotions and deny that they exist. This can lead to our emotions accumulating in our bodies until something small triggers an outsized response. Examples of this include chasing someone down into a parking lot, uncontrollably sobbing at a lyric in a song, or losing our temper with our kids.
Dealing With Our Emotions
The key to dealing with our emotions is not to deny or tamp them down, but to instead welcome them and ask ourselves what they are trying to tell us. We can check in with our bodies to see where the emotion is located and then ask ourselves what matters to us and what we need to do.
Emotions are messengers that can provide us with valuable insight into our deeper unconscious mind. By learning to listen to them, we can gain a better understanding of ourselves and our needs. It is important not to deny or tamp down our emotions, but to instead welcome them and ask ourselves what they are trying to tell us.
Check out our Busy to Balanced Masterclass if you are having trouble listening to your emotions or if you're ignoring them or denying that they even exist. You will learn about the role of emotions, how to welcome them as part of yourself, and how to make the most of them.